Last week, Co-Pilot Dad made plans to go see The Hobbit with a friend. When Captain Alpha heard about the outing, he immediately asked if he could go, too.
“Not this time, bud,” my husband told him. “That movie isn’t really for kids your age.”
“But all my friends have seen it!” he protested.
“Really?” I asked.
He insisted it was true.
He complained a bit about how he is always the last one to see things, that he never gets to see what everyone is talking about.
What it all comes down to is that I am the last mom to let go and let her child watch violent movies.
As I type this, I am thinking ’Whoa – helicopter mom, much?’ And I am sure there are many people who will think that.
Because I know that there are many parents that are OK with their children watching super hero movies and the Star Wars saga and the LOTR series. I am not going to judge them for their choices.
Because they know their children; just as I know mine.
I think it is important to know your child and what type of entertainment they are ready to watch. Captain Alpha? He is a sensitive, empathetic boy. He doesn’t like violence. An animated Pokémon battle is about the extent of his violence comfort level.
When he was 6, he came home talking about Star Wars. All his friends had seen Star Wars. Could he watch Star Wars?
I wasn’t sure; but my husband thought it was OK. He had seen Star Wars at that age and he was fine with it. So we watched the original Star Wars one Saturday night. (Well, we started to watch it.)
I was hoping that some of the more mature themes would go over his head.
They didn’t. He was fully aware of Luke’s aunt and uncle’s fates and proclaimed, “This movie is breaking my heart!” By the time we got to the scene with confrontation in the cantina, he was sitting in my lap and asking us to turn it off.
So we did.
I know that he would be uncomfortable with extended battle scenes and violent images – especially in a movie theatre where the darkness and size of the screen make the experience much more immersive.
The difficulty comes when he wants to see the latest ‘big kid’ movie that everyone is talking about on the playground. Then the call is mine; I don’t think he is ready.
So I guess that makes me the hold-out.
Maybe I am holding him back. Maybe I am too protective - I admit that it is possible.
It still doesn’t change my mind. There will be lots of time for him to catch up on these cinematic wonders. There are so many things that I can’t wait to share with him – when he’s ready.
So I’ll be last – I’d much rather he read the book first, anyway.
Linking up with Pour Your Heart Out with Things I Can’t Say today