My Newest Blog Reader

 

I have a new blog reader.

When I see a comment from someone who has never commented here before, I always smile. It is a nice feeling to “meet” and connect with someone new.

My newest blog reader didn’t post a comment here or on Facebook; I knew he was reading because he told me himself. In person. Shortly after I tucked him in bed the other night. 

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Yep. Captain Alpha has read my blog.

I knew that one day he would; it was only a matter of time, right?

Of course, he has known about my blog for a long time. The boys started to notice that Co-Pilot Mom was open in my browser a lot. Then they noticed that my photo was on the page. Every so often, they asked me a few questions about what I was doing. But other than that, they had no interest in what I write here.

They are children of a blogger, though. When I take pictures, they ask if I am going to post it on the blog or Instagram or Facebook. They scout for free Wi-Fi everywhere we go. They know that supper timing may depend on whether I get the perfect image of whatever it is we are eating, just in case I want to blog about it. 

I have involved Captain Alpha in my process a little more, though. At 9-going-on-10, he is becoming interested in social media and the web. He does his own online research for school and seems eager to take those first steps into this new world. When I write about him now, I ask his permission to share it here and I get his approval on photos I post. He is going to create his own online presence one day (sooner than I can imagine) and I want to start preparing him now.   

“I am reading your blog,” he told me one night. 

He had come out of his room to get a drink of water before bed. It was probably a trap, but I fell for it anyway

“Is that OK?” he asked. “It is interesting.”

He said he liked reading stories about himself and seeing the pictures of us.

David turned to me. “Is there anything that he shouldn’t see on there?” he asked quietly.

“Not really,” I replied. 

I have thought about this day since I started my blog two years ago. One day my children would find my blog; one day they would read it. I knew they would want to read the stories and see the photos I share of them. One day they might even want to know about me and the thoughts I had as their mom. 

I thought that day might not come for a while yet, though. Truthfully, I would have thought that most things here would be boring for him – I don’t really write with tweens in mind. But he listed the names of the posts he had read. He gave me his impressions and shared his own memories. 

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I wasn’t sure how I felt at first. This space is open for anyone to read, but in some ways it is an odd feeling when someone I know – who knows me “in real life” – reads it. 

I don’t know why that is. The stories I share are ones that I would share with them anyway.

Maybe it is because I feel pressure to tell our stories well, to represent my family, and to show respect for their stories as they weave together with my own. 

I want my boys to know me – the Co-Pilot Mom on my blog and the Mom they see every day. I want them to see where they mesh, and hear my voice in their heads when they read my words.

I want them to know I rediscovered my love of writing by starting this blog and sharing stories about the love and joy I find in motherhood. And I want them to only be embarrassed on my behalf when I reveal my bobbles and wobbles when I inevitably drop the balls I juggle. 

I hope that my newest blog reader – and his younger brother – will still enjoy looking back on these stories in the years to come. I hope they give them a better sense of who I am, and who we are as a family. I hope they know how much they inspire me.

Do you have a blog? Do your children know about it? Do they read it? 

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  1. I have the same awkward feeling when people I know in real life, read my blog (even my husband!).
    My kids are still too young to read my blog, but I write with them in mind – not just that the stories I tell are true, but that I respect them in every way.
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    • I feel exactly the same way about respecting them, Alison. I guess because I always knew this day would come, I always pictured them reading my posts one day. I never wanted them to be mortified by the stories they might find about themselves.
      I mean, they might be embarrassed that I shared some stuff of the things I do about myself, but since they live with me none of that will come as a great surprise. :)

  2. I love it! My daughter told me she reads it, and I know my oldest son reads it on occasion. I have a feeling they are keeping an eye on what I say, even though I don’t write specifically about them that much. It’s definitely tougher the older they get.
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    • I think he will keep on eye on it from now on too, Michelle. And I can see a day in the future when he is less willing to have me share stories about him – which would be perfectly reasonable. :)

  3. I think you’re doing a great job when you put your kids needs first…which you do. As they get older, your writing style will change a little. Mine are 22, 15 and 13 and they often dictate what I say and don’t say. There are many more non-bloggable moments now than there used to be! Trust your instincts…bottom line, you’re a “mom” before you’re a “writer” and you’ll do just fine!

    • Thank you, Colleen. I fully expect that the day will come that he is less willing to have me share stories about him. Right now he is interested and he thinks it is cool to see pictures of us online. I always try to respect them when I share here – because you are so right: I am a mom first, and a writer second.
      So happy you stopped by! :)

  4. My husband was my first subscriber to my blog (not 100% voluntary on his part. Ahem.) and my kids have been reading off and on… They are at the age where everything they do and say is usually followed by a “no, you may not blog this” or “yes, you may blog this” :D
    Your blog is so sweet and awesome, I’m glad your kids will get introduced to the internet with it!
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    • Aw, thank you, Kerstin!
      I just know that I am going to hear the “you can’t blog about this” conditions soon. :)
      Also, my husband was my first subscriber, too!

  5. My older one reads the blog and my younger one is forever suggesting blog possibilities (like “The Dose Girls go to the movies”). I think as time goes on, it will be more special to you and to them that you have this space. :)-Ashley

    • I love that she gives you post ideas! That is awesome.
      I hope that they appreciate having this space in the future, too. I know *I* am certainly happy to have it! :)

  6. My kids are still a bit young to really notice. But they do see that I share pictures of them fairly often and are starting to understand that.
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    • My guys started noticing the pictures too. And my with my oldest’s interest in – and with him learning more about – the internet, it was only a matter of time before he checked it out. Hopefully it will be a useful way for him to learn more as time goes on.

  7. What a handsome new blog reader!
    Des doesn’t know. Scarlet knows that I wrote on my computer and she knows the word “blog” but I don’t think she really gets it. I know one day I’ll maybe have to think/ask before posting but I do that with Cassidy when in doubt and it’s been smooth so far.
    Then again, he isn’t a tween or teen girl! Should be interesting one day!
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    • I have checked with David before about things, too. It is hard with family stories because so often they all weave together and become as much about other people as they do about ourselves. I always try to remember that. So far, my oldest has always said yes when I asked if I could share something, but I am sure that one day he may not be as willing. :)

  8. Oh wow. That’s kinda huge- and also hugely flattering.
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    • It did feel like a pretty big moment. I am glad he liked it. And I hope that the blog can somehow be useful to help him learn about online responsibility in the coming years.

  9. Margaret has just started reading my blog. I am not sure what that means or what to do about it. I want it to be my place to open up, but I don’t want to mortify her or have her open up to me less than she already does.

    • I don’t know how knowing that he may be reading might affect what I say here, or if it will. Right now I am thinking about it, but I think that is because it is new. I can see it being cool to him for a little while – mostly when I post photos of him – but I don’t know that he will be interested all the time from now on.

  10. My oldest son is a freshman this year – for the first time he has a FB account that he checks (the school band page uses it a lot!). Back in the fall he started making random comments about things from my blog. I asked him if he read it – yep just about every day!!! I like it and I especially like it when he says something to me about what he read!!!
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  11. I get what you mean about that “odd feeling” when someone in real life reads your blog or mentions your blog. My mom recently started reading mine and it’s a weird balance. On one hand these are stories I would share with her and on the other hand my blog is such a small part of who I am that I wouldn’t want her or anyone to think that, that is all there is to our life.
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    • That’s true, Julia. I think blogs are like snapshots of who we are, but they are not the whole picture.
      Glad I am not alone in feeling odd about that. :)

  12. Ben does not read mine, yet. I think he would if it interested him more but right now, it does not and I am okay with that. He did have fun reading his birthday post though!

    I think it’s cool that you have a new, loyal reader. ;)
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  13. I love this, Kim! My kids read my blog in the morning before school if I am writing. They don’t access it on their own, but if it is open on my computer, they do. I always try to keep in mind that they may read in the future. And of course I ask them how they liked what they read. They know to tell me they love everything. ;)
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  14. My kids know about my blog and Frances has read some of it. I have had a lot of the same thoughts as you about what they will think of it. You know what worries me the most? SC and the EB and other holiday things I’ve written about that I’m not ready for them to read yet. I hope you, but not the Captains, can figure out my code!! ;)
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    • I think that was my husband’s thought too, Rabia, when he asked if there was anything here they shouldn’t read. I thought about that in the past and therefore haven’t written about holidays except in general terms. But now I know that he could be reading any time now. :)

  15. I’ve been writing on my blog for almost five years. With six kids, it’s inevitable that they’ll be reading it. However, I’m amazed that they don’t read it that often. I think after a while they just forget that I even write for a blog. I don’t necessarily mind that my kids read my blog but, like you mentioned, it feels weird because I know them up close and personal.

    • I think there will be times that my blog fades into the background of my oldest’s awareness. He seems to have moved on from it for now, but I am sure he will revisit it soon.
      Thank you so much for visiting and for your comment!