Yesterday, David and I celebrated eighteen years of marriage.
Since our marriage is eighteen years old, we are officially grown-up married people. (Whuuut?)
I don’t have any big secrets or magical formulas to give, because the truth is, I think marriage is different for everyone. Some people seem to have to work hard at it, others not as much.
I think it’s presumptuous to think there are any one-size-fits-all, do-this-and-you-will-live-happily-ever-after instructions.
Having said that, I do think there are things that are good for a marriage. Like surprising your loved one with something special like chocolate, a night on the town, or five million dollars. But mostly…
Marriage goal: to one day embarrass their kids.
A couple of months ago, we went out to dinner with the boys.
When we got out of the car to walk to the restaurant, David looked at me and said, “You look so pretty, I want to hold your hand.”
I flashed a surprised smile as I slid my hand into his. In the same moment, I became aware of some shifting and huffing and puffing nearby.
“OH MY GOSH!” It was Alpha, staring at us incredulously. He shook his head and looked at the ground.
“You’re SO EMBARRASSING!”
We laughed as he speed-walked to get ahead of us, crossing the parking lot and heading to the front door of the restaurant.
When we caught up with him, David gently said, “You know, you are pretty lucky to have a mom and dad married so long and still like each other enough to want to hold hands.”
Alpha mumbled something like an agreement, followed by, “… still embarrassing.”
It seems that every time David and I share a hug or a cuddle, he makes a hasty exit while calling over his shoulder, “I’ll leave you two alone!”
An impromptu dance in the kitchen prompts a, “YOU GUYS! I am embarrassed to be related to you.” Although, I can tell he is trying to hold back a smile as he shakes his head.
So if I could give one piece of advice, it would be this:
Go ahead and embarrass your tween/teen. Hold hands in the parking lot, cuddle on the couch, dance in the kitchen. And hope with all your heart that one day they find a love that will embarrass their children, too.
Do you ever embarrass your kids?